{"id":1296,"date":"2013-08-19T17:01:06","date_gmt":"2013-08-19T21:01:06","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/businessconflictmanagement.com\/blog\/?p=1296"},"modified":"2013-08-19T17:01:06","modified_gmt":"2013-08-19T21:01:06","slug":"floating-questions-for-the-beach","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"http:\/\/www.businessconflictmanagement.com\/blog\/2013\/08\/floating-questions-for-the-beach\/","title":{"rendered":"Floating Questions for the Beach"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Hanging around my notebook are musings and questions waiting for an iron to get hot enough to strike. \u00a0Well, the iron hasn&#8217;t and it being August we might as well just lay them down there, unconnected but I hope not worthless.<!--more--><\/p>\n<p>1. \u00a0The corporate people say that new ideas are hot and stale ones are not. \u00a0Is it true that ADR is still as worthwhile as it ever was as a corporate practice, it&#8217;s just no longer &#8220;cutting edge&#8221; and so it&#8217;s hard to find a champion for it?<\/p>\n<p>2. \u00a0The course, they say, goes like this: \u00a0Advocacy, then adoption, then success, then off-support. \u00a0So today&#8217;s rooster becomes tomorrow&#8217;s feather-duster, by virtue of delivering what he promised. \u00a0Is that the case with ADR?<\/p>\n<p>3. \u00a0Companies &#8220;get it&#8221; internally. \u00a0Most companies of any size have a front-loaded employment dispute management system, and have learned that it&#8217;s cheaper to acknowledge and address employee problems early than to chase after them late. \u00a0Why has this learning not migrated to relationships with critical partners outside the company?<\/p>\n<p>4. \u00a0Can you be a champion of an idea that is already familiar?<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><img decoding=\"async\" alt=\"\" src=\"https:\/\/encrypted-tbn1.gstatic.com\/images?q=tbn:ANd9GcRia3ojF7nL85eHXV3PtAvxQEkyPDB0-4uTA8cHbYyAqmX122DF\" \/><\/p>\n<p>5. \u00a0Successfully mediating a conclusion to a case at the end of the litigation-prep process is not a success.<\/p>\n<p>6. \u00a0Why is business-to-business ADR pushed most enthusiastically by vendors, rather than those who would benefit from it?<\/p>\n<p>7. \u00a0A hostage negotiation shared a mantra: &#8220;Respect the other party; trust the process. \u00a0Not the other way around.&#8221; \u00a0How often I have seen disputes where neither respect nor trust was evident &#8212; for <em>anybody<\/em>.<\/p>\n<p>8. \u00a0&#8220;Civil discourse.&#8221; \u00a0The concept seems to hinge on a willingness to listen and discuss views other than your own. \u00a0But in many corners &#8212; both in public and in private discourse &#8212; there seems often to be no reason to assume that the other person&#8217;s view is worth anything other than to refute. \u00a0And we didn&#8217;t invent this phenomenon &#8212; as long ago as 1650 Oliver Cromwell urged the Synod of the Church of Scotland, &#8220;in the bowels of Christ, think it possible you may be mistaken.&#8221; \u00a0Arguers don&#8217;t; problem-solvers do.<\/p>\n<p style=\"text-align: center;\"><img decoding=\"async\" alt=\"\" src=\"http:\/\/upload.wikimedia.org\/wikipedia\/commons\/thumb\/2\/24\/Oliver_Cromwell_by_Samuel_Cooper.jpg\/220px-Oliver_Cromwell_by_Samuel_Cooper.jpg\" \/><\/p>\n<p>7. \u00a0Perhaps the best environment for civility is not a bilateral disagreement over whether A or B gets the money, but rather a multilateral disagreement over whether A&#8217;s river that irrigates B&#8217;s land can also be used to provide C with electricity without compromising the recreation that D needs for a living, knowing that if they can&#8217;t agree E will come in and regulate the whole thing.<\/p>\n<p>8. \u00a0We don&#8217;t need an open mike or a &#8220;town meeting.&#8221; 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